The activities in BDSM

(at the end of the article there’s a bonus)

We begin an infinite and constantly growing topic in an attempt to list some of the BDSM practices that we know of. Our goal with this article is to help the new people in our community to enrich their fantasy with activities they may possibly like. The list surely isn’t complete and is quite possibly missing someone’s favorite activities entirely. We don’t allow ourselves to think that we can encompass everything because our perspective is limited too. Some activities could fall into multiple categories from the BD/DS/SM relations. We will do our best to sort them in an acceptable way. We are also always open to your recommendations to enhance the list for the good of the community.

To the new people among us – don’t forget that each of the following activities are negotiated between the partners – whether they may happen or not. Everything is consensual and with consideration for safety and sanity. The sub most often has a safeword that they can use to stop the play in any moment.

Also keep in mind that some activities may be considered illegal in some countries so it’s best to inform yourself and not get yourselves in trouble.

Bondage

rope bondage
belts / leather cuffs
duct tape, electrical tape, stretch film
handcuffs
chains
silk scarf
shackles
straitjacket / bag
wooden or metal devices
collar and leash, attached to a wall
putting limbs in a cast
cages
prison-type cells

Discipline

with awards for submission – being allowed to cum, to sleep on the bed, to eat more tasty food, to get dressed
with humiliation – to be dressed in a humiliating way (in private or in public); to be tied up in front of people; to eat from a dog’s cup; to cum in front of people; to have humiliating things said about you in your presence; to remain with smeared makeup, shaggy, disheveled, etc.;
with corporal punishment – spanking, caning, using riding crops, floggers, whips, a cable, rubber hose, nettle, etc.;
with other pain – with inflatable anal/vaginal plug
by staying in a punishing position
by torture – in tiresome and painful positions; with ginger root in the anus/vagina (called figging); with an electro-stim device
being forbidden to touch yourself sexually or to cum, or to have sex, or to touch the Dom
by controlling the use of the toilet

Domination (and submission)

mental – to motivate the sub with mental stimuli; mindfuck
physical – to control by force; to disorientate, manhandle, press against a wall or the floor
gentle – sensual and careful guidance
rough – to force the sub; face slaps, tearing clothes, hair pulling, making the sub cry, etc.
domination over the internet
behavior rule setting
submission training
giving tasks for the sub to perform
“forcing” the sub to perform tasks
talking in a humiliating way – truths or fiction – like she “is a little whore” or countless similar words or that she is too scrawny; that he is fat; that he has a small dick; that her vagina is like a cave; that she is flat as an ironing board – depending on what floats your boat.
forceful restraining
tying the sub while they are asleep (seriously verging on non-consent, so be careful!)
putting to sleep with sleeping pills
gagging (stuffing the mouth)
blindfolding
other sensory deprivation
walking on a leash
putting in chastity
depriving the sub of their will
marking / branding the sub’s body – temporary or permanent (with a tattoo, piercings, permanent makeup, breast or ass enhancements, or for the most hard-core practitioners – branding with hot iron or scarification)
long term domination – for the whole day, week, month…
making the sub release/untie themselves or to wait for a timer to release them
loaning your sub to another Dom
name changing (within the limits of the play)
personality changing – by breaking their will, brainwashing, hypnosis
forcing the sub to acknowledge their body or their genitals / breasts / ass as property of the Dom
mentoring / teaching / treating like a student
tease and denial / making the sub wait to cum
denying sex
forced orgasms
cumming by order
breath control
toilet use control
controlling when the sub eats
face sitting
ordering the sub to lick their own juices – squirt, sperm, drool

Submission

voluntary restraining
staying naked in front of the Dom
awaiting the Dom in a position ready for sex
kneeling
erotic dancing
asking permission to do something (or to cum)
addressing the Dom in a respectful way
speaking only when spoken to
choosing to cum and to get punished or to hold it for some time
begging the Dom to stop without them actually stopping
not knowing how long you will be tortured
to sleep tied up
to sleep on the ground
to sleep in a cage
to be fed in bondage
to have parts of your body shaved
having a rule to grope the Dom any time you can while in bondage
to punish yourself by order
wearing symbolic BDSM jewelry
serving other Doms under the supervision of your Dom
switching roles during play (between top and bottom / switches)
switching roles for the next play (between top and bottom / switches)
to pamper the Dom – bathing, hairdressing, nails, massage, masturbation, blowjobs
to serve alongside other submissives
to resist / fight the Dom
to submit without resistance
begging
infantile behavior
to have your clothing, hair style, makeup chosen for you
to have your food chosen for you
to have your body weight controlled

Sadism & Masochism

emotional – cuckold, playing with your partner’s emotions – like accepting and rejecting; forcing them to watch as you are with another person; verbal degradation; instilling fear of an upcoming torture
causing sharp pain – with different type of strokes; needles; shallow knife cuts in the skin; with an e-stim device; dry penetration; putting out cigarettes (on the tongue or body); face slapping; body hole dilation; candle wax spilling
causing gradually increasing suffering – putting in a hard position (tied up, in a cage, on a wooden horse, impaled and standing on your toes; with peeled ginger root in the anus/vagina; keeping in hot/cold place; predicaments (forcing the sub to balance between two or more tortures by themself)
beating to tears
beating to bruising
beating to blood
trampling (walking over the sub’s body)
branding with hot iron

Fetishes

Aromas
Scars – temporary or permanent
Underwear
Foot worship
Heel worship
Penis or pussy worship
Voyeurism
High heels – wearing or watching others wear
Videotaping – for personal usage or sharing
Breasts
Lace
Watching yourself in a mirror
Exhibitionism
Female supremacy
Male supremacy
Injections
Intellect
Corsets
Crossdressing
Cosplay
Catsuits
Tuxedos
Swimsuits
Zentai suits
Blood
Latex / rubber
Lycra
Missing limbs
Masks
Hoods
Milk
Wearing fur/feathers
Worn underwear
Inflatible suits
Shoes
Shaven genitals
Body hair
Glasses
Diapers
Policemen
Crying
Tears (in general)
Armpits
Being made into a doll
Cigars
Robots
Hands
Gloves
Bruises
Being photographed – for private or public usage
Spandex
Fear
Sploshing (smearing food over the body and eating it)
Trampling
Body suspension (from hooks through the skin)
Uniforms
Feminization
People of color
Black dicks/dildos
Socks

Humiliation

Being beaten in front of people
Over the knee spanking
Body shaving (in a humiliating way)
Shaving the hair or eyebrows
Being lead by the hair
Being tied up in front of the window
Watching your partner play with others
Not knowing who’s playing with you
Not knowing who’s watching the play
To be found in a humiliating position
Staying stuffed with a dildo and waiting
To drool uncontrollably
To be smeared with your drool
To be smeared with your own juices
To be called dirty names
To wear a bell on your neck or elsewhere on your body
To repeat that you are a little dirty whore while you cum
Going to the toilet tied up
Breathing through a gas mask, connected to a urine tank
Spreading your pussy lips aside with clothespins
Examination
Consensual non-consent
Having your head pressed to the ground with a foot
Depersonalization
Body search
Writing over your body with a marker
Pissing – over you (with or without swallowing)
Being made to hold worn underwear in your mouth (extra humiliation if it’s wet with vaginal juices or piss)
Being watched as you piss
Spitting
Wearing bondage under the clothing
Being sprayed with squirt
Prostitution play (or being treated like a prostitute)
Crawling
Farting
Public discrase
Tearing clothes off
Smeared makeup
Public sexual stimulation
Cumming in front of people
Being turned into a maid
Serving as a pony
Serving as furniture
Serving as a toilet
Staying in the corner
Being treated as an object (ash tray, clothes hanger)
Being treated with condescension
Being treated as a slave
Being treated as an animal
Being treated as a sex object
Verbal humiliation – with truths or fiction
Being made dirty
Eating pet food
Eating from a pet’s cup

Humiliation with additional coercion:

Forceful restraining
Forceful dressing up
Forced nakedness – in private or in public
Forced voyeurism
Forced slavery / servitude
Forced masturbation
Forced squirt / sperm drinking (your own or someone else’s)
Forced squirt / sperm licking (your own off the floor or someone else’s)
Forced used dildo licking
Being forced to talk while gagged
Being forced to crawl on the floor tied up
Being forced to walk in a circle around the pole you are connected to
Being forced to dance tied up
Forced blowjobs
Forced bisexuallity
Forced physical exercises
Forced bathing

It’s a good practice that the partners discuss what they do and don’t like before they start playing. In some situations there is enough time to get to know each other in depth and it’s good to have a list of activities to remind you what to negotiate. That’s why we share with you our activities list / questionnaire which you can download and fill in with your potential partners. Good luck and have fun! 🙂 (you can find the Bulgarian version HERE)